tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026452253727228820.post3747809776120664175..comments2023-10-04T05:08:27.316-04:00Comments on From a house in the: "It's called Blue Ruin.."JoshueTreehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09183455917452933426noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026452253727228820.post-29768633323732787832010-11-02T16:03:31.331-04:002010-11-02T16:03:31.331-04:00Well thank you ladies for being my first real comm...Well thank you ladies for being my first real commenters. <br /><br />Faux (may I call you Faux?)...sounds good, I'll get right on it. No, not Cali.<br /><br />redheadedgirl: Stop being so logical and reasonable. It goes against everything I stand for.JoshueTreehttp://joshuetree.blogspot.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026452253727228820.post-82878171604335909642010-11-02T15:13:18.306-04:002010-11-02T15:13:18.306-04:00Well, first, there's many reasons he could hav...Well, first, there's many reasons he could have been googling her that don't involve "I'm not over her yet." Idle curiosity, sheer boredom, lots of things. So you don't actually know where "there but for the grace of god go I" really is. Don't worry about him. It looks like you're projecting your own concerns on him, when the only evidence you have that he's not over her is a single Google search. <br /><br />So. You asked for real stuff, so, here goes.<br /><br />It takes a lot of time to heal from this kind of thing. 4 months is not that much time, so you're within normal limits. It sucks. It's hard. And it will get better. And your "Awesome years" will be there. <br /><br />My concrete advice is to work on being a whole person. She didn't complete you (that whole "you complete me" thing is such crap. Don't be that co-dependent guy. It's creepy and sad.).<br /><br />It's okay to be sad. It's also okay to stop being sad- that doesn't mean the relationship meant less, it means that you are ready to move on. <br /><br />I hope that helps a little.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8026452253727228820.post-51573003195221522112010-11-02T14:30:46.177-04:002010-11-02T14:30:46.177-04:00my original comment was way more awesome, but I sa...my original comment was way more awesome, but I say go full-on rebound. Date, hook up, get ridiculously drunk, flirt, etc. It'll take your mind off it. That's what I did when I called it quits with loves of my life. :) I swear, it helps.<br /><br />Also, is she in California?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com